Anyone Who Says She Doesn’t Need a Girlfriend… just hasn’t found a good one yet.

I don’t have that problem.

For all my faults and lacking, one thing that I have pretty much nailed is gathering the best girlfriends ever. I am blessed to have hula friends, yoga friends, beach friends, travel friends, pedicure friends and shopping friends. I have sewing friends, quilting friends and crafting friends. But even with all those amazing women to choose from to cherish and call “my girls”, I am doubly blessed to have two very special ones… Sandra and Launi.

My relationship with Sandra goes back 42 years and 30 with Launi. At my stage of life,  I can’t imagine not having such lifelong friends in my life. (I’ve often told my daughter’s that someday you will want old friends but you can’t go back in time to make them. Start now!)

The Day My Worlds Collided!

It wasn’t until about ten years ago that the two met. Part of me was so excited to introduce them to each other. But then I panicked and felt that my worlds were about to collide! What if they didn’t like each other? Even worse, what if they liked each other and no longer needed me in their life. Ha!

Well, obviously my fears never materialized.

But the most precious moment I will forever remember came at the hardest day of my life… the day of my oldest daughters funeral. I was determined to hold it together for the sake of family and my children. But it was hard. I felt I was drowning in a sea of all my daughters wonderful friends, I was barely hanging on with white knuckles and even though there were over 1000 people there, I never felt so alone.

Just when I thought I  was at the end of my rope, I looked down the hallway and there, walking arm in arm, coming towards me, were these two best girlfriends. They’d flown in to help me say farewell to my child and loving held me up. After it was over, I collapsed in their arms.

If you have a lifelong friend… call her right now. Tell her how grateful you are to have her in your life. If you don’t have one, start nurturing the female relationships in your life. Ten years from now, you’ll thank me.

 

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